Why it takes a village – helping young adults to build good long-term relationships & marriage (Pt 1 of 2)

Before the obvious educational establishments, before the rise of the Internet Search Engines, books and libraries were used to increase humankind’s knowledge. Before that, it was word of mouth from family members and community elders, along with cave and wall paintings. Books have lasted the test of time and are still used by those seeking … Read more Why it takes a village – helping young adults to build good long-term relationships & marriage (Pt 1 of 2)

The failure of the ‘type’

Human beings can be both fascinating and frustrating in equal measure, most are able to exercise our rights of ‘choice’, sometimes to our own detriment. On one hand, we have an ability to learn from mistakes, however, on the other, some repeatedly make intentional bad choices. People who are emotionally and mentally balanced, would consider … Read more The failure of the ‘type’

You know you’re ready

So you’re single and secure, you don’t have any baggage, you refuse to settle, you utilise your time constructively, you’re holistically developing yourself, you’ve acknowledged that you are in the 2nd state of being single, you have an understanding of what constitutes as real riches and you have the correct perspective of love and colour, … Read more You know you’re ready

It’s not in the stars

Many see them as a joke; some think there may be something in them, while others allow their lives to be completely dictated by them. There are some who believe that their personality and character types are determined by the time, day and month they were born. Some also hold to the belief that the … Read more It’s not in the stars

The Quotient-Quadrant

Many have heard about IQ and over recent years there has been a greater emphasis placed on EQ. However, as human beings, we have more to us, we have a full quotient-quadrant which also comprises of the SQ and PQ. In order to be “balanced”, we have to place equal importance and emphasis on the … Read more The Quotient-Quadrant

Don’t Settle

We go through life with differing attitudes, our expectations can be positive, negative or a combination of both, depending on our past experiences, emotional/spiritual state and how we choose to deal with others. The saying “misery loves company”, is true, therefore it’s possible for miserable people to attract others and have a relationship. However, in … Read more Don’t Settle

Natural beauty and other aesthetics

Being unique individuals automatically equates to us being diverse in our tastes and opinions. The sometimes emotive but always subjective, topic of “beauty” ranks high on the list of personal taste and opinion. Our character, nature, how we view life and treat others are the real measure of the beauty we contain as human beings. … Read more Natural beauty and other aesthetics

Positive emotional expression.

I was scrolling down my Twitter home timeline recently and I saw a conversation between two women concerning broken men and relationships. It reminded me of the real world face-to-face conversations I’ve had with females, who’ve bemoaned the emotional and broken state of many single men. We all know that ‘brokenness’ is not a preserve … Read more Positive emotional expression.

The Rich List

Still on my break from the books, I thought I would share another encouragement piece. Riches…The word provokes very strong emotions in people, for a number of obvious reasons. Are you of the camp which believes you either are or you’re not rich? Or maybe you think more expansively, believing that riches are subjective and … Read more The Rich List

I couldn’t

Taking a short break from the books, if you enjoyed ‘I decided’ I hope you enjoy this… I couldn’t, being born and raised in England, hate White people. I couldn’t, having a Black mother and wife, hate Black women. I couldn’t, loving my mother, wife and 3 daughters, be a misogynist. I couldn’t, share and … Read more I couldn’t

Love and colour

Occasionally you read an article or quote, or hear someone on TV say that they don’t see colour. I think it’s one of the most ridiculous things that anyone can say, in an attempt to seem inclusive and ‘non offensive’. It’s a fact of life, human beings, whether male or female, come in various shapes … Read more Love and colour

Team #McCoco and @g.e.m.s.life

Tennis and Football(Soccer), have always been sports I’ve enjoyed, both playing and watching. My footballing days are well and truly over but I still love to get out and play tennis when I can. I’ve been very impressed by the young American tennis duo at the 2019 US Open, Catherine McNally and Coco Gauff. They … Read more Team #McCoco and @g.e.m.s.life